Fear

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Fear is one of the biggest enemies of growth and development of human beings and it is interesting how it disguises itself in various kinds of conduct and how we relate to other people.

A typical behavior of the delay is afraid to "make decisions". It is fear of risking and losing or obstacles that prevent you from make choices that meet your needs and desires. Its difficulty lies in fear of offending the other, leading then to agree to everything, making it unable to say "no" and making the other's desire its only reference in life.

There are people who call themselves "shy" and thus avoid being exposed due to the strong who are afraid of being rejected and not accepted by the other. Because of this, fail to invite people to leave or to chat, get a no fear and end up feeling rejected, without even trying. A shy person is a person who suffers from fear of failure and ridicule their goals relate to the social and succeed.

Due to fear of being rejected, people may hide their feelings, falling in love without ever knowing they are in love, abandoning someone, afraid of being abandoned or isolating themselves to suffer alone, afraid to ask for help and be "dependent " on someone.

Fear, then, can masquerade through behavior "closed", theyt look proud and self-sufficient have the inability to make commitments.

The perfectionist hide the fear of failing in the eyes of another. This is really what she/he is afraid to make mistakes and not do something. Their relationships and behavior are strongly marked by the need to exert control over the situation and others. Only then, she/he feel safe. When something unexpected happens, something not provided for them, their world is unstructured and stress happens.

The moral person, always trying to put the points in "ii", so nourishing dose of fear and aggression. Basically, the scrupulous is a cowardly little irritated, which is always concerned to present a flawless outward righteousness.

The reactive person who is always ready to question and defend also hides their fear of being criticized and their low self-esteem to others.

Lying is another manifestation of fear in relationships. The person may lie for fear of dealing with any conflict and not able to cope with feelings of rejection that their actual behavior might generate.

It is important to know that people are afraid to die, in fact afraid of living. It is also important to know that fear is part of human nature. Everyone is afraid of someone or something, losing someone you love, being bitten by a snake, being unemployed, being assaulted, ill ...

The question is when we left paralyzed by our fears, when they cease to be beneficial to protect us from dangerous situations and become shadows that prevent us from being truly healthy.