Do you believe in soul mates?
Personally, I believe that we can have different types of soul mate connections with people - lovers, friends, family. I don't like to think of soul mates as soley being the romantic concept of someone's true love. I think there's a great deal of empathy and compassion in a soul mate type of connection. It's like two people who really inspire one another and help each other through the good and bad times in their lives. Some of these relationships last a lifetime, others don't. Sometimes I think people over romanticize the idea of a soul mate and think that they're supposed to be this ideal person but the truth is if your soul mate is human, then they're likely going to make mistakes and mess up in life.
On the topic of soul mates, I found this quote really interesting and thought I would share it:
"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master..."
— Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)
AVELINO MAALTOS
in the end soulmates are two words agape love
Sep 5, 2012
WaterFish22
Yeah, there has to be someone that has almost the same taste that you do.
Trying to find them is very hard however, from my experiences. Sometimes you just have to settle for less.
It sucks to be single all the time, but it probably sucks even worse to fall in
love with the wrong person and have to go through a divorce and have to start all over again. Sometimes it seams no madder how hard you try to find your sole mate you come up empty handed, I guess the best advice to give to anyone is to always be searching and learning new things because you just never know where life is going to lead you next.
Sep 5, 2012
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I think you are setting the bar low for a "soul mate." If a soul mate is just someone who helps you for a limited amount of time in your life, then how does that make someone a soul mate? It just doesn't sound very intimate.
In a world of free will and random chances, only being meant for one person out of over 6,000,000,000 people seems to be a very cruel fate. It is the proverbial needle in the haystack on a global scale. What are the exact chances that this person lives close to you, speaks the same language as you do or is even ready to date? What if he or she was never born because their mom had an abortion? With so many variables, it is unlikely anyone would find their destined soul mate that are meant to be with.
The urge to reproduce is the most primary and base instinct of any organism, monogamy is urged in our Western civilization and generally relationships are the first step before couples start spitting out babies together. As long as there are people with a desire to find someone and believe they have to be with only one person, then they are always going to be someone who is their soul mate because they are all looking for that finality in courtship. The belief in a soul mate can justify that completion. It is over, no more looking around, lets settle down.
Sep 5, 2012