Do you believe there is a particular age in which a couple should formally enter [or, seriously consider] into marriage? Or, is age simply relative, in comparison to other factors?
What marriage is to any one couple is fine. This whole "I hate couples who move on from their marriages for reasons that are dissatisfying to me" schtick is ridiculous. People who marry, generally, intend to spend their lives together. People who divorce, generally, have found that staying together for their lives wasn't such a great idea anyhow. NO ONE should stay in a marriage that's satisfying to them because of someone else's standards.
That said, maturity is the key point to marriage. Knowing yourself and your partner well enough to know whether you want to work at a lifelong relationship.
Sometimes you're mature enough to make that decision but your partner turns out not to be. Sometimes people grow apart. and sometimes they can't grow back together. That's not a point of shame, that's simply a fact of life.
Whatever your age is, if you get married, chances are you're going to have to get divorced, one day. That's all you need to consider really. The exact timing is unpredictable, regardless of your age. Marriage itself doesn't keep people together a moment longer than they otherwise would've been, these days. So get married if you're ready for divorce, basically.
qwertygirl
What marriage is to any one couple is fine. This whole "I hate couples who move on from their marriages for reasons that are dissatisfying to me" schtick is ridiculous. People who marry, generally, intend to spend their lives together. People who divorce, generally, have found that staying together for their lives wasn't such a great idea anyhow. NO ONE should stay in a marriage that's satisfying to them because of someone else's standards.
That said, maturity is the key point to marriage. Knowing yourself and your partner well enough to know whether you want to work at a lifelong relationship.
Sometimes you're mature enough to make that decision but your partner turns out not to be. Sometimes people grow apart. and sometimes they can't grow back together. That's not a point of shame, that's simply a fact of life.
Oct 9, 2012
Alan Wisbey
Whatever your age is, if you get married, chances are you're going to have to get divorced, one day. That's all you need to consider really. The exact timing is unpredictable, regardless of your age. Marriage itself doesn't keep people together a moment longer than they otherwise would've been, these days. So get married if you're ready for divorce, basically.
Oct 9, 2012
qwertygirl
Citation needed, Alan.
The much bandied about 50% divorce statistic makes marriage seem like a much riskier chance to take than it actually is.
Oct 16, 2012