Why do women always seem to be perfect at first but then turn out to be an absolout waste of time? is there any decent ones out there? if so then im defietly in the wrong place in the world!

[HIBBSY]

Im 22 and  a full time single daddy to a nearly 5 yr old and have now found through dating here and there that it always goes the same way! am i doing somthin wrong or do i just have too high expectations? Is it because i dont want to be looking after 2 kids instead of havin some help. I want to find a women that will also bring somthing to the table is that so much to ask?

[miracle.]

Guys do the same thing - I was dating a guy who's 21 with an 18 month old, and instead of involving me in his son's life and letting me help him with his son he completely separated me and his family. And then out of the blue just stopped talking to, stopped answering my phone calls, and completely cut me out of his life. You just have to be selective in the women you date and then when you find a good one, hang on to her. :)

[HIBBSY]

see thats a bit harsh i would always involve my son in everything i do. ive been single for a year and 6 months now and had my son for 3 yrs all on my own. if im getting involved with anyone they have to have my sons approvell and i have to know that they are cappable of doing the simplist things with him such as playin. You are right i wasnt being sexiest i was just stating the fact in my circumstances its women :) do u think im too picky?

[miracle.]

i don't think you're too picky. i think you're not being picky enough at first. if you're saying that they seem to be perfect at first and then turn out to be an absolute waste of time, then you're not letting them know of your expectations from the get go. if your son is such a huge part of your decision from the beginning, then they need to know that from the start. when matt and i started dating, i knew right away that his son was the biggest part of his life. I was able to start dating him planning on being part of his son's life. in my case, that didn't end up happening, but I knew that it could. if that's what you expect of someone you're going to date, you need to let them know that right away if you're looking for something serious. i'm not the ultimate authority on this kind of thing - I don't exactly have fantastic luck with guys, but I know that's what worked between Matt and I for me to realize that if I wanted something with him, I was also going to have to be prepared for a relationship with his son. Which I was totally fine with, and it ended up being him who wasn't ready for it.

[HIBBSY]

maybe thats it, maybe im just not ready to start a relationship with anyone :(

[Slacker]

It's most likely your fault, you attract the wrong kind of women and make the wrong choices. Sorry to be blunt.

[HIBBSY]

haha tis ok cheers for ur honesty lol sayin that the birds down here are mainly bonkers anyways lol

[Kris]

Patience is highly underestimated these days..
Good things come to those who wait.
Some people don't find what they're looking for until later in life.
The key is just simply not to stop looking.
I would say it's a good thing if you won't settle for "good enough"
Because you shouldn't. You're more than worthy of more.
You're still young despite the fact that you have a kid anyways.

But then again from another point of view I suppose it would be completely irrational for anyone to take advise from a 15 year old kid.

Either way.. I wish you good luck.

[HIBBSY]

lol yh but advice in knowlege of opionion is regarded greatly no matter the age, the end of the day advice is advice init. i cant afford to settle for 2nd best ive done that throughout my life and has got me know where i cant just fall for someone that i maybe fancy i have to think of the bigger picture which puts alot of dout in my mind. i stopped looking for love ages ago and if someone does pop up now and again i will see what happens im just extremly doutfull that in my mind someones going to life up to my expectations which sound snobby as i know but its a slight problem of mine.

[HIBBSY]

i disagree m8! just cuz we are 22 doesnt mean we dont know shit about fuck all!!!! i know quite alot about life cuz of life changing events and experiances. When ur chucked into the fire and have to keep the flame alight on your own back you tend to pick up a thing or 2 about how things go down. wtf about heaven dude its all bollox anyways plus just cuz we are 22 dont mean we cant date older women to this older aproch ur speaking of. ive gone out wiv 33 yr old birds and still the same mate mature or not u still have to find somone that suits you!

[PhonyMcRingRing]

Yeah, you sound like a real catch.
Love your avatar.

[isaah06]

There are plenty of decent females out there, and perfectly willing to take on a kid. The thing is it goes both ways. And just going by what you've said on Bolt, its easy to see that your the one with the fucked up attitude. How about you try putting some effort in too. No female is going to take on the two of you, unless you are worth it. And why should they. At your age a girl is'nt even thinking of starting her own family. So why should she take on yours. So you have to give her very good reasons to do so.

[Kenli Ketcher]

It def. you, your lookin in all the wrong places =) or just pickin the same type of girl every time