Twisted

[Lackadaisical]

I am so confused. There is this guy and we have been off and on for almost three months now. We have an "aggrement" of sorts...we aren't "together" but we aren't supposed to do things with other people..kinda like a friends with benefits thing..but more than that. We are like best friends. I love him, I really do..but I don't know "just friends" is enough for me anymore. He says he doesn't want a relationship right now and what not. I don't know if he is just using me or being sincere..I trust him, I don't have a reason not to..but sometimes I just wonder...He also says I need to change a few things before we can be together..I just don't understand what I am doing wrong..What would you do in my situation?

[leesha624]

dont change who you are for anybody. if he asks you to do that then he doesnt really care for you.

[ScOtT FoReVeR.. MoMmY 2 Be =]]

I would try to move on and then i would try to talk to him again... but othe then that wait for him to come back to you if he really likes you then he will come back sooner or later!! ive been here and done that! its going to be okay.. youll find someone that is better and that is really worth your time!! cus he sounds like he dont wanna be with you or anyone.. but move on and dont change for anyone!! =]

[MidnightL]

He sounds wishy washy and is probably using you. If he can't be in a relationship wh you then you sure as heck shouldn't change.. for him or anyone. There are people who will accept you the way that you are already.

[Bethany]

To me, it sounds like hes useing you. Also, someone who says you need to change soemthing about yourself, isnt worth your time. Either they like you for you, or they dont. So if hes saying you need to change things, then he doesnt like you for the person that you are.

[The_Almighty_Stan]

You made an an agreement to not be together. He's honoring that.
I don't see the problem.

[Chris James]

Um, if yall are doing the nasty, and being exclusive about it, then regardless of what you call it, you're already in a relationship. Look, if either of you aren't mature enough to actually hash this thing out like adults, than you shouldn't be having sex.


By the way. Everything a guy tells you is bullshit. ESPECIALLY at your age. God I miss being your age, when chicks were naive enough to believe whatever line you fed em, lol. Take it from a retired player. You're being played.

[Melissa O'Quinn]

OMG i have been where your at and trust me unless he means CHANGE IE: a drug prob, personal hygiene, or laziness when it comes to life then yea but other then that i would not change anything but then again even those things its up to you, but if ur already in love then it will be hard before you started this FWB thing did you ever talk about if feelings were to come out what the plan would be?

[Bec J]

you know what if a guy really really like syou he WILL WANT a relationship with you...if not he is just trying to keep his options open

[PhonyMcRingRing]

Sounds to me like he's giving you a pretty clear message that he's not in love with you, and never will be. If you're comfortable being his fuck buddy while you look for the one, that's cool, tho the exclusivity rule will have to change.
If you're in love with him and want to have like 10,000 babies with him, i suggest you move on. Sure, if you stick around long enough fuck-buddy might gradually morph into a fuck-joint-chequing-account, but at best he'll think of you as a friend, and at worst you will have bullied him into it, and 10 years down the line one of you'll cheat and you'll be right back here wondering what happened.
Get out now.

[Jesse Stevens]

I would definitely just tell him, "look, if you can't be serious with me and be in an actuall relationship with me, im not doin this anymore."
but i dunno man.
i was once talking to a guy like that he would say, "i want to date you im just not ready"
we would mess around and stuff and i started to love him and he randomly told me one day that he didnt want to be with me because he still wasn't ready, then i found out he had had a girlfriend for two weeks before that.
Don't trust him unless you can be completely sure that you can trust him..

[Mike]

he's a user that just wants sex, you want a real relationship...you're both looking for different things, he is no friend of yours. your not supposed to date other people so he can use you as a fall back whenever its convenient. he's playing you...move on and forget about him. Find people that want the same things as you and is going to like you for you, not just your body. There's a ton of opportunities out there.

[bent]

first, unless what you are doing is negatively affecting your health dont change it for anybody, in the end, even if it is but is something you truly want to do it wont matter if you do change it, you will resent and always will resent having to change yourself for someone, now matter how much you think you love them

second, what is this not wanting a relationship but exclusive sex? hmm, sounds like he has oter option but wants to keep you lined up in case his pother options fail, which is not necesarrily a bad thing, except your supposed to be exclusive

third, what is everybody's stupid ass idea of npot having a relationship with yada yada yada...do you not realize that you have a relationship with every body you meet every one you see, there is better wording for what youre trying to say, because the word relationship being used in this context is completely off kilter....boyfriend girlfriend isnt what you are then why exclusitivy? makes no sense, its a trap, danger danger will robinson...WTF?!?

dont be stupid, take it from another dick, he is playing you for a fool, dont be one