stuck in a jam

[jenny poo]

Ok! I have been with this guy for two years (he is my bestfriends brother). Everything has always been kinda rocky from the very start. Well fast forward two years! In feb he told me out of the blue that he hates me, and that he never wanted to see me again. A week later i found out I was pregnant. I told his sister first, then his mom, grandma, and a few of our friends. I tried to call him saying we needed to talk, but he said we have nothing to talk about and hung up on me. His sister told me not to tell him. I decided the best thing to do was get a abortion. That way he would never find out. Well his sister got drunk one night and told him EVERYTHING! Now he is extremly angry with me and his family. I don't know what to do. Was I wrong for not telling him first?? Does he have right to be angry with everyone?

[Amanda <3]

I think he had the right to know...I honestly think the father of a child should have a say in weather or not a woman gets an abortion unless shes doing it for a medical reason or if she was a rape victim...yeah I think you were wrong in a lot of ways....

[The_Almighty_Stan]

Abort the child, preserve it in formaldehyde and leave it on his porch.

[haggis_hunter*lilly*]

this made me chuckle but in an o so wrong way

[The_Almighty_Stan]

It was oh so right.

[wordbaby]

what about them mouse traps with the sticky pads?

they get stuck in a jam for real

[haggis_hunter*lilly*]

i am assuming that you have already had the abortion ?

i dont think you were wrong or right to have had the abortion... thats your decision and know one has that right to judge you on that. i do think that mabey it wasnt the best idea to have involved his family, even if you couldnt have got a hold of him but at the end of the day (its night) whats done is done and cant be changed. if he is angry with you so be it... does it really change anythin between you guys ... you already said that the relationship was rocky from the start.... mabey its time just to leave it as it is. on him being angry with his family.... you just got to let them sort it out.

[jenny poo]

He didn't even know I was pregnant, until after I already had the abortion.

[isaah06]

You should of told him before you told anyone else at all.
And ofcourse he's gonna be pissed.

[jenny poo]

yeah but when i tried to tell him he didn't listen. he just hung up before i could tell him. So this is his fault. Now he can live with that for the rest of his life.

[isaah06]

When it comes to such important issues, sometimes you have to put more effort in and try more than once. But he still should of been the first to know.
But it sounds like you didnt want the child anyway. So no point stressing over it now.
Also for you to want him to live with something bad for the rest of his life, shows that you never loved him very much to start with. So everythings probably worked out fine. Find your next victim and see how you go with him.

[isaah06]

I'm not saying hes not an asshole. He still should of been the first one to know. And I dont believe that parents should stay together just for the sake of a child because it never works in the long run. She didnt want the kid to start with so its prob a good outcome considering.

And I wasn't trying to be rude or anything

[jenny poo]

I actually did want it. I just couldn't afford it.