other people's biting kids

[Aleada]

ok i need some help here

 

my husband's friends come over with their almost 2 year old daughter. her and my 3 year old son play pretty well together, except that when she gets angry, she bites. she bit him 4 times in one after noon, and the mother didn't say anything until i started telling the little girl that it wasn't ok to bite.

 

i need someone's advice in what to do in this situation. is it ok for me to continue telling her daughter not to bite? am i wrong in feeling that, if the mother is sitting right there, they should be the one disciplining their own child??

[isaah06]

Well if they arnt gonna say anything then you have to, I'd also tell the parents they should be saying something to their kid too.

Apart from that its your house, you can say and do anything you want to...

[Calistar17]

^ yep about the "whys" of biting

 

Your best plan of action when you know they're coming over, is to have certain activities set out. That way you can control the situation a little better. Activities where you can provide several of the same things so that there is less to fight over (crayons, play-doh etc.) are always best. Open spaces as well so that they're always in view don't need to be too close (i.e. put the play tents away!). The less a 2 yr old has to feel competitive or frustrated about, the better your chances are of a visit with no biting. Your son is old enough to learn to defend himself as well. When a bite happens it is perfectly okay to say "In my house, we use words instead of biting" Then show her how it hurt your son. "Look how sad that made him" Then tell your son to tell her "Don't bite me, that's hurts". Hopefully the mom will catch a clue. Either way, when you can find out why shes biting, you'll have better luck anticipating situations where she has the greatest potential to bite, and you can plan for avoiding them like some of the typical reasons I suggested above. Good Luck. That's no fun, but thankfully its just a phase.

[The_Almighty_Stan]

Just let your kid bite the shit out of them. I'm sure they'll notice at that point.

[Kookie]

That was my answer..

[The_Almighty_Stan]

Psh imitator.

[Kookie]

Whatever dooood..you wish u were as cool as me =P lol