Opinions?

[sdhsfjskkgjksghk]

  I love my boyfriend very much. I'm sick of people not believing this, simply because I am fourteen. I know in my heart that what I feel for him is real love. So, I want to get some outside opinions on my situation. I've come here because I cannot tell my friends. Either I know they aren't mature enough to handle it, or they simply wouldn't want to hear about it.

  In the past few months, my boyfriend (who is fifteen) and I have been growing closer and closer. We truly care for one another, and we are very supportive of each other. We have a strong emotional relationship, but lately our physical relationship has rocketed forward as well. We have done many things with one other, including both manual and oral sex. And lately, we've talked a lot more about actually having sex. We really, really want it. And I know if we had a few hours alone, it would probably happen.

  I feel ready for it. I really do. My mother has told me more than once that, though she doesn't necessarily believe that everyone should wait until marriage for sex, I should be much older, and it must be with someone I truly love. Well, I love him. I would do just about anything for him. And while I may be young, it doesn't seem that way. I don't feel the same age as my friends, though I am. I am confident in myself, and I don't like to let what others think affect me. But sometimes, when it comes to decisions like this, I can't help it.

  People have such a negative outlook on sex. It's obvious why. There are so many teenagers out there making stupid mistakes. They hardly know what it is, but they participate in it anyway, and get stuck with an STD or a pregnancy. Or, they do it to make themselves feel better, and end up hurt and emotionally scarred in the process. I'm not one of those people, and I know this. But what still bothers me is the fact that people would look down on me for having sex, even if it is for the right reasons. Even my friends would be shocked and disgusted with me if they were to find out. Hell, they would be shocked and disgusted if they knew what my boyfriend and I have done so far. However, I have no regrets. Everything we've done, we've been ready for, and it has been a positive experience for us both.

  So, do you think it would be wrong if we were to do it? That because of our age we cannot handle it? Or do you think we should go for it if we're ready?

 

 Thanks. (: x

 

[sdhsfjskkgjksghk]

I am in high school now. (: I was actually homeschooled until last year, so I have a different outlook than others my age. I didn't grow up hearing about sex from others at school, and as a result I think I view it very differently. Everyone else I've met seems to consider it a novelty and hardly anything more, and that's precisely why everyone thinks people of this age are not ready, lol. I realize that it's something very special and it's a big decision, and I know why people choose to wait. However my boyfriend and I do care for each other very much, and I figure, what's the point of waiting if we don't even know what we're waiting for?

Thank you, though, for giving your point view. (:

[isaah06]

Well firstly at your age its the hormones kicking in that are making you want to be more active... So keep in mind its those same hormones that drive young teens into doing things they may later regret and/or pregnancy or STD's...

On the other hand its totally natural, and can be one of the best experiences of a lifetime... This should be what your aiming for!!

Just be sure you're bf is not pushing you into it... Be sure its what you want...

The easiest way to know is... Dont plan for it to happen.. If the time is right, you will feel nothing but happiness and love.. Any pain would be over ridden by joy.. There will be no doubts in your head at all...

If these things arn't there, then don't do it. And your bf will be understanding of your decision to wait a bit longer...

What your friends/family say is irrelivent as this should have nothing to do with them before or after the fact... This is between you and your bf and no one else... And the thing is even if it does happen there is no need for anyone else to know about it.. Its not something for bragging rights...

 

My twin daughters are the same age as you, and being honest I will always say no and do my best to stop this happening to them.. Cuz thats when my little girls become young ladies, and thats closer to them leaving my protection... Which is closer to me having nothing to live for.. which is closer to me dieing...

So ya may as well kill me now...

 

Just remember it should be one of the best experiences of your lifetime.. If you feel anything is stopping that, then dont do it...

[isaah06]

Now just because you fucked things up with your lack of anything impressive.. And just because you dont have the ability to make a good time of their first time... That doesn't mean that everyone does...

You're holding on to your own personal experiences of doing it wrong, instead of learning of how to do it right.... I guess that explains a few other things about you too...

 

I've only got one side Foo.. Just depends how you want to recieve it.....

 

 

 

[sdhsfjskkgjksghk]

"I'm not getting into one of your childish name calling things..."

If I do remember correctly, you just called him a "horrible cunt."

[sdhsfjskkgjksghk]

Really?

If you're an adult, why don't you act it?

[isaah06]

Dont get pushed into it, dont do it unless your sure, and it should one of the best memorys of your life..... Is what you consider too much detail for a 14yo is it.. Fuck stick to being a simpleton Foo, your child raising skills are non existant, along with whatever you're trying to achieve here...

I dont care what the size of ya dick is, it just appears you play with it too much.. It seems you're creeped out cuz you cant handle talking to a 14yo... As I said, stick to being the simpleton you've been for so long..

[isaah06]

Its obvious they dont, so why comment about mine when all you've got is your own bad memories, and no fuckin idea about anything else... Contrary to your first comment its you thats talking shit...

[isaah06]

You dont know what you've said now.. This whole thread is you saying I talked too much detail with a 14yo.. Though you admitt you know nothing of raising kids, you feel qualified to comment on what I say to them..

And your stressing over name calling... I've said nothing accept call you a simpleton, yet you called me a horrible cunt who's sensative side talks shit before I said a word to you.. LMFAO

So on par with the advice you've given here.. Maybe you should of kept your opinions and your mouth shut... And just stick to being the simpleton you always have been.....

[isaah06]

So I've been making things up now.. exactly what is it I've made up...

Its a simple case of you opened your mouth without knowing what you were talking about, and threw in a couple of insults at the end.. And you've been backpedaling ever since...

And yeah I say a lot of shit that I shouldn't too.. The difference between us is, I'm man enough to say when I'm wrong.. Where as you keep backpedaling and trying to twist what you've already said, even when its there in B&W... It seems to be you that cant handle shit being said.. But I guess its just the simpleton nature...

[isaah06]

Aww dude did you take that seriously....... Now I never even thought of that cuz its nothin.... Buuuuuuuuutt I guess you do have bad memories.. I guess saying sorry while LMFAO isn't gonna stop you being butthurt is it....

You insulted me in your first comment... So I guess were even

[isaah06]

No I'm serious, its funny as all fuck... I didnt think you would take offense over that..LMFAO. You must of really had a bad experience... See this is what I was saying for Nishi to avoid... I know I shouldn't laugh, but I just cant help it.. I never meant to bring back these memories to you... You poor little man.. I guess it still effects you now.. But on the bright side of things, you've brought laughter to my houshold and my girl says thanks for the entertainment...

[isaah06]

now your going right back into the conversation.. Cant you keep up just for one conversation... Now were going to bed cuz its late.. But thanks for the laughs its been great. Do it again another time.. Try not to think about your bad experiences, and remember just cuz it happened to you it doesn'y mean it will be the same for everyone.. And again we thank you for the laughs...