need some insight

[Aleada]

when we first started dating, the guy i'm with drank a little. mostly when we went out. now it seems like he drinks ALL the time. at the very least, a 6-pack of 16 ounce cans a day. we have a 2 year old son together, and i think it will be a negative influence on him, if it's not already.

 

my question is this: should i stay and keep trying to express to him how much his drinking is bothering me, or should i take our son and leave?

 

i really do love him, but it's getting real old, real quick.

[isaah06]

You cant just take your son and leave just because he drinks.. If he's abusive thats a different thing. But 50% of the population drinks without any problems...

So just talk to him

[isaah06]

Your a stupid dumd fuck Jimmy, no wonder ya gonna be single all ya life... And get that kiddy porn picture off ya profile you fuckhead... You just get worse everytime you open your mouth or do something...

[lit candle]

i think you should bail out. You already said it all, he is a bad influence on your child.

[Aleada]

well, he basically admits that he's an alcoholic. he's genetically predisposed to alcoholism, both his mom and his dad have it, but i know he won't get any help, we've been through that before. the thing is, he's lying about it now. and he'll borrow money for things like groceries, so that he can spend the money he has on alcohol, because he knows that people won't lend him money to get drunk. he will stay up all night drinking, knowing he has to work the next day. then, he'll either go to work drunk, or he'll call in sick, but he says it's because he stayed up too late, not because of the alcohol.

 

 

 

 

[The_Almighty_Stan]

[The_Almighty_Stan]

Go out for a drink and talk aboot it.

[isaah06]

Thts actually more sensible than people think... Much less chance of it turning into a full blown arguement, and being taken the wrong way...

[The_Almighty_Stan]

Of course it is. It's the same angle as breaking up with someone in a public place.

[Ramzy]

not long ago,sitting with some friends.one of the guys was very sad,talking about his gf.,," I saw her doing it on the sofa kissing another guy"he said,...the other friend said to him "get red of the sofa"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now if he drinks that much,does he have a job?,if he doesn't, who give hem the money to support you,the kid,and to buy all that stuff ? You should think of your self, look in the mirror,do you take good care of your self ?of how you look,is he still attracted to you,sometimes you think you will make hem stop,while you,unintentionally,encourage hem,where will you and the boy go? I can't say more than this.

Get help, seek professional treatment .

[isaah06]

You know everything you've said here,,, like asking this question and stating "i really do love him, but it's getting real old, real quick.'....

Just shows your looking for reasons to leave him.. So sooner or later you're gonna do it anyway....

So just get it over with and leave.. But try being big enough to tell the truth, that you've had enough of him.. Rather than looking for bullshit reasons to blame him for the breakup..

[Omar]

Of course you need to give him a chance to change, but don't threaten him and tell him you'd leave if he doesn't stop, because that simply wont help.

 

Try to convince and help him realize how serious this is, for an example: tell him that he will always be the most important person in your son's life, and that he might become one of those abusive angry guys who'd start doing things he will regret later on. Helping is always better than threatening, but if that doesn't work then leave. That's just what I think. :)

[Aleada]

ok so the other night he came to bed after being up all night drinking and playing video games and said that he realized that he has been drinking a lot just for the hell of it. i told him that i was worried that he wouldn't stop and that things would get really bad. and so, on his own, he's decided to try to stop. thanks for all the comments. it's nice to get other people's perspectives on things.