My boyfriend fancies other girls

[Sally]

I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months.

The problem is that when I'm with him and there's music videos on the television, he goes on and on about how much he fancies celebrities and goes on about how hot they look in their videos.

I know I have to be realistic and accept that there are girls out there that he will see as better looking than me and that he will fancy visually more than he fancies me.

But I don't think it's appropriate for him to make this so obvious in front of me.

It really upsets me. I really like him and I'm sleeping with him but I feel like I'm not good enough for him.

The other thing is he sometimes goes to the strippers with his friends. I don't like the idea of that either. He's in a relationship with me but he wants to go eye up other girls naked.

The above is the only problems I have with him. Does anyone have any advice for me?

Thanks.

[Danksmoke]

It's normal for dudes to check out other women. Women do the same thing. It's just natural for people to notice attractive people. As long as he's not cheating on you, looking at other women isn't a big deal. But if he blatantly flirts with other women in front of you, that's just disrespectful.

As far as the strip clubs, that's a different story. At strip clubs, it's more than just watching girls get naked. It's getting lap dances and getting drunk, and personally, I've always considered it a big waste of money. But that's just me.

[Shawnita]

Have you told him how that makes you feel? Or is he in the dark?

[kayleigh anne jay]

best thing is 2 let it go ova ur head i av the same problem wit mine. i just pretend it doesn bother me.. i no its hard cause u end up lookin at ur own down falls, dnt put ur self down and enjoy the good things u share...

[The_Almighty_Stan]

What are "music videos"?

[The_Almighty_Stan]

The first part is just you being insecure. As far as the strip clubs go, just talk to him, like Shawnita said, and let him know how you feel about that.

[PhonyMcRingRing]

The measure of a man is not that he doesn't want to sleep with other people, it's that he doesn't.
That said, I think most of us have the good taste to not be quite so obvious about it.
I don't think Talking to Him About Your Feelings (the default solution for anything for women) will really help. Perhaps an object lesson. I suggest you begin ogling men, and describing what you'd like to do to them to him.

[Andrew]

This advice works really well. My ex would catch me checking out girls (almost subconsciously) out of the corner of my eyes, get mad, and eventually she started doing it blatantly to show me how it felt. I stopped. haha

[Letty]

I agree with Danksmoke.
You also have to think. What are the chances that he'll meet the celebrities and/or get a date with them.

My boyfriend does the same thing. I do it to. It's all natural.

I agree with the strip clubs. I would be pretty pissed off if my boyfriend went to a strip club.

[Leah Rachelle❤]

Get over it... Bluntly, I mean I'm nt trying to be rude, but its normal, and perfectly okay as long as he isnt touching them.

[Audrayy]

Tell him how you feel about that.
I'm realy high on my standards with boys, and I congratulate you with that.
I'd have no point to that at all, I would've told him to quit it, keep his thoughts to himself
and if he didn't do that, I'd leave him.

But, if you let him know that this initially hurts you and he really DOES love you,
nail it into his head and he'll realize he's hurting someone he wouldn't ever want to hurt.
Of course, he won't stop the erotic thoughts, but hopefully he'll have learned to keep them to himself,
and not share them with you.
Most dudes have that much common sense these days anyway.

:D

[❤Hazel Castella Dane'e's Mommy❤]

It is just that. Guys look at other girls like you look at other guys. It is human nature ain't nothing changing that.

[Jeri TERROR]

It doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Those celebrities are celebrities, he's not going to get with them.
&& As far as the strip club goes I would be the one to tell my boyfriend i'd love to go with him.
It's a natural thing...You look at other guys don't you?