is it possible?

[maite trujillo]

well I have this friend and she is a bbw she has a b/f and suposely he told his brother that he is embarrased by her cuz she is big. he says that he loves her and acts like it, is it possible that he could love her even thought he'sembarrased by her? I told her that if he really loves  u he wouldnt care how she is, big or thin plzz help i need some opinons!

[PhonyMcRingRing]

This is a fairly common complex for chubby-chasers to have. They're attracted to X, but society and culture has been hammering into them their whole lives that they're supposed to be attracted to Y. It takes a lot of personal growth to develop the strength to overcome that kind of conditioning, the kind of growth that most people don't have to go through - it's very easy to be yourself when that identity is more or less culturaly approved.

Is it possible that he genuinely loves her while simultaneously being embarrassed? yes. His friends have probably said things. He might get looks on the street (depending on how big she is, and how attractive he is). Imagine a very tall girl with a very short man. She might love him with all her heart, but you just know that when girls night out rolls around and her friends are all drunk, they're going to be making fun of him, and by extension, her. That's embarrassing. What should she do? her options seem limited to getting new friends or having a sense of humor about it. The latter seems preferable.

[maite trujillo]

thanks for the reply!