do hawaiians have aloha?

[sharon owens]

i've lived in hawaii for 11 years and i'm not bowled over by aloha! friendliness! helpfulness! or even basic good manners and minimal kindliness from the locals. what's up with that? i've been really generous and am always there to give a ride/loan that rarely gets paid back on time/computer assistance, etc. not looking for much here, just can we all hang out and be ok, that kinda thing. am i barking up the wrong tree? living on the wrong island? aiming too high in my expectations? thank you.

[Gorecki]

As a Hawaiian myself, I am full of Aloha. I also know many other locals who are the same way. So, I am not sure if it's the fact that you are on the wrong island or if the people around you are just rude. Just know that we are not all like that. :]

[sharon owens]

thank you, i was sure that was the case. i need to meet more polite and friendly hawaiians. i never felt prejudice toward anybody when i lived on the mainland, and it has felt so strange and unpleasant to be treated so badly because my skin is the wrong color. i try keep my heart open. not always easy.

[Gorecki]

I understand where you are coming from. When I came to the mainland (Colorado), I was bullied and not accepted for the longest time. I honestly finally just got to the point of having the "I don't give a f***" attitude. Once that happened, that was when I started making friends and being accepted. I learned living in the mainland that you will never be accepted by everyone but as long as you know yourself and you are comfortable within your skin, life is a breeze and that's all that matters at the end of the day.

If you ever feel like you wanna talk personally, feel free to message me at anytime. :]

[sharon owens]

thank you. this helped.

[Gorecki]

No problem. I am glad that I can give you some kind of advice that hopefully will make your life a little more comfortable. :]

[sharon owens]

there's a lot to love here. and after so many years, i'm not sure i'd want to give up all the good in this town to start over someplace else. so maybe that's a good focus for me. there is plenty good here for me, everyday. i had nice exchanges with different people today. i have no control over anyone but myself, so may as well settle in, unpack my heart, and make myself as comfy as i can.