Custody Case

[DinaKillsAgain]

It really sucks when in this position especially when no one believes you. My lawyer ditched me because I'm "difficult". Court is on Monday and I feel discouraged. No one sees the big picture that the real father of my daughter is a badperson and won't change. If i end up dead it will be by his hands. Went to meet other lawyers the other day but it's really expensive. I'm a full time student and I can't afford to have 3 to 7 thousand dollars paid in full. I really hope the judge shuts the door on him to say no more, it's over, peace out douchebag. Then again they might give him more uncalled for opprotunities regardless of his progress. Tribal Law is a mess. I hate this.

[DinaKillsAgain]

will they granted him more time which is bullshit. he was playing the very sad victim in court. over 4 months without paying child support and he had a job. his lawyer argued he had a job then he didn't and he did then didn't again. He claimed he was broke but pulls a 2 hundred dollar touchscreen phone. I still have a old school flip phone that i can afford. His myspace page shows that he has been taking his friends out to the movies and buying video games. He states that he doesn't know why I refuse to have anything to do with him. He is involved with plenty of underaged females and I know he was molesting my daughter but no one sees that but me. It's so frustrating when it's in plain view but don't realize it before it's too late. Thats what I'm afraid of - before it's too late.

[Karen Geotz]

I don't know about what they mean by "Difficult". But these cases are highly emotional. You are going to have to stop worry so much about what his next move may be and plan yours. Do whatever you can to keep or make things stable in your and your child's lives. I've been through this, and it is so hard. You just want to reach out and ring their damn neck. That's how they get you. They are all playing a psychological game with you to mess you up and put you through the wringer. Majority of time in the end, they just walk away anyway. All this for nothing to show. I don't know what tribe. Mine's Eastern Band of Cherokee. God I hope it's not them. But I was dealing with NYC law. I had Judge Judy way before her show. She was nice to me. He lost.

[Karen Geotz]

I don't know what your lawyer means by "difficult", but these cases are highly emotional. It's a psychological game they are playing, to mess you up and put you through a wringer. In the the end, most times they just walk away leaving you with nothing. All this for that. I have been through this. This is hard, but you have to suck it up and stop worrying about what he is doing or what his next move may be. I'm speaking from experience. They want you to tail him, to dig, to ask around. You can still gather information, but don't let it engulf you. You have your family and yourself to worry about. Do all with what you currently have, even if you feel it is nothing, and try to be productive. Better yourself. Never let them win. Let the Judge see you with your head up through a tough time, even try to smile. Sorry, but your emotions must be put aside. He's going to always threaten something to rile you up. I don't know what tribe you're referring but I hope it's not mine, Eastern Band of Cherokee. I had to deal with family courts in NYC. I had Judge Judy way before her show. I won. He lost. Stopped paying after a year. But I won.