bisexuals- whats your view on them?

[danielle evans]

are you one? do you think they dont exist? or theyre just gay actually? im really looking for who doesnt believe they exist and why

(i am bisexual and i wanna hear peoples reasons for thinking its not possible to be or whatever)

[Shawnita]

Why?

[Amy Vincent]

okay first of all, its more of a "fad" to be bisexual. how about you call yourself "trisexual" if its sexual, you'll try it.

[Callie Vineyard]

hardly a fad! lots of people are seriously bisexual and there is no reason to pick a team

[WickedKC]

I have had very serious relationships with males and females. It is not a fad to be comfortable and feel loved.

[Me]

I'm bisexual. It's a sexuality just like hetrosexual and homosexual.

[Callie Vineyard]

People are idiots! Bi-sexuals are men or women who enjoy sleeping with both sexes but not necessarily at the same time! A lot of males and females have good healthy bi-sexual relationships and while it may be true that you may not hear of a lot of older bi-sexuals this is because they eventually have a stronger preference for one sex over the other. This does not mean they are strictly gay or straight just that they have a preference. Just like not all people who sleep with someone of the same sex are bi or gay, they had a one night stand with someone of the same sex. Danielle if your more curious google the Dan Savage Podcast because he has awesome information and please don't listen to half the idiots who replied to this post.
I have included the link
http://podcasts.thestranger.com/savagelove/archives.php

[Cindy Trottier]

Well, i believe that it isn't a matter of being desperate or greedy but simply a matter of having a freedom some people don't understand. On our quest to find someone as a life partner, why limit yourself to just one gender. What if a soul mate was the same sex as you? some people are happy with one gender some people try to broaden the search. I am with my fiance Rian right now and he is a fabulous man who loves me and his daughter, but before that, I was with a girl for 3 years. And let me tell you, it wasn't about sex. It was about a connection I didn't have with anybody else until Rian came into my life and that pull was much stronger. And I don't find the desire for threesomes by males disgusting, its a primitive trait stemming from the caveman's need to mate with as many females as possible in order to preserve the species...although that's not an issue anymore lol!

On a lighter note, why do you have to be female to be bi. All we are talking about is female bisexuality, what about males lol!

[Callie Vineyard]

*woo woo* *clap clap* you go girl. I totally agree with you

[Jessica Vicente]

I'm bisexual and anyone who finds them to be actually 'gay' is ignorant

[DiamondRose1976]

I don't really care either way.

[Mark Lovendahl]

All right -- I think most people have bisexual ~potential~, but I'd say most people are "scared straight" -- the non-hetero mainstream social penalties are still fairly serious (and may actually be perceived to be more severe, sometimes, than they actually are; fear tends to distort the accuracy of perceptions.) But I'd say most people completely suppress or repress any sexual interest in people of the same sex, if it's there at all.

Add to that the self-concept issue: stigma. ("What does/would this say about me?) This is actually a more powerful force for most; especially for males in our culture -- it's okay to be a rebel and to stand up to social pressure, that's actually a manly thing to do. But there is a non-stop stream of cultural messages that push the idea that someone who accepts or acknowledges attraction to someone of the same sex is a broken person. It's one thing to stand up to being treated as a second class citizen by others; it's another to look in the mirror and see a second-class citizen in your own image.

Yes, there is also the "just a little bit gay" problem. Some people feel it's easier to "come out" by first confessing to be bisexual: it's a position where retreat is possible, where you can officially be 'on the fence' and then later 'go back' to being straight: ("I thought I was bi for a while, but then I realized I ~really~, ~really~ liked guys/girls and forgot about girls/guys.") This corresponds to the "going through a phase" position that our parents preferred.

So, if you have a few (gay) friends who have gone the "I'm bisexual" -- "Oops! I'm really not bisexual, I'm gay" route, you might believe there are no true bisexuals.

IMO, in the end, 'bisexual' is a time-limited tag. You might be, honestly and truly, bisexual today. But if you meet a guy/girl and go deeply down the romance and love path with that person, your sexual interest in others may evaporate: you might become a Him-sexual or Her-sexual. (OTOH, some people are sexually interested and aroused by anything that moves -- and perhaps some things that do ~not~ move -- no matter how deeply in love they might or might not be.)

So, bisexual today might be hetero- tomorrow, or homo-, or pan-, or whatever, and back again!

I know there for myself -- today --- there are far fewer women that I turn on to than there are men. Maybe one in ten thousand woman versus one in fifty men -- that's a very unscientific ballpark guess. But for eighteen years I was in a monogamous relationship with a woman and during that time there weren't any men that interested me sexually. Go figure ...

I don't know if that's helped you in defending your position, but maybe you don't really need to convince anyone. I suspect that almost every person, at some level, knows what sexual attraction to someone of the same sex is, and that it's possible.

But they might deny it if you try to make a point of it.

Cheers
Mark

[Taco]

Bi-sexuals are real even if you don't know one. The only problem is people who think its cool to be bi get in the way. Myspace bi or barsexuals its only fun when someone is egging you on. I feel that most girls say "Oh yeah I'm so bi bcuz I think that chick is super hot or I so made out with a girl at that party last night" the truth is in the taste, if you can lick it and love it then yeah I'd say go for it. If your afraid of the poon but just like to kiss girls, chances are your probably just a slutty chick (Sorry) or you need a boyfriend that can kiss well.