abortion

[haggis_hunter*lilly*]

right here's the scenario:

guy and girl - they have a weird set up of on/off relationship.
guy is working, already has a child who is 10 years old, has made it very clear in the past that he doesn't want any more.
girl isn't working, she's at college and has said that she doesn't want children.

girl finds out she's 6 weeks pregnant and doesn't know whether she wants to tell guy because she is pretty sure she wants a termination and by telling him it would more than likely affect their relationship even though she is pretty sure he wants the same same thing.

so if you are a guy would you want to know? and if you are a girl what are your thoughts ?

p.s. this isn't about me, this is a discussion I was having with a group of girlfriends.

[Jade West]

You describe their relationship as weird and on/off, so it doen't sound like it's got much of a future anyway, so she should discuss it with him. It's too big of a thing to keep it a secret. It would be irresponsible for her not to include him, since I'm assuming he is the father.

[2rxs6xzrm25hq]

Only in a sick, degenerate society would this question ever be asked or even contemplated. The answer is pretty damn obvious.

And if you are going to kill his baby, you might as well tell him instead of double downing on cowardice. Perhaps he'll be like most liberal myn and go 50/50 on the abortion cost.

[The_Almighty_Stan]

In the end, it's the woman's choice. I personally would prefer knowing though.

[Ashley]

He should know.

I was thinking about something like this for the past few days, and what I would do if I got pregnant under my circumstances. It hurts me to consider abortion, but it hurts me more to contemplate having a child that I have no means of providing for.

[isaah06]

I'd prefer to know either way. The chances are if she doesn't tell him its still going to effect the relationship anyway, and she'll be going through the shit alone. And even later on its gonna come up sometime or other making things even worste

[christine ashton]

If she wants an abortion, she shouldn't tell him. He doesn't need to know.
But really, if the relationship is no good, then it should be broken off.

[Kristi Miles]

I feel like the guy ALWAYS has the right to know, IF its not rape.

[Nagi Naoe]

My fiance doens't seem to understand a lot of it, when he realized that the reason for abortion is also for medical reasons. I have brought up the sceneros several times regarding medical reasons. I did bring up one factor, and I'm thinking he might not like it, but will understand if we cannot support a child, then we should think about aborting, because there are thousands of children who are stuck in foster care and just putting another child up for adoption is not fair for the child, there are chances the child will never be able to find a home at all.

in most cases, men can be understanding, but also they need to use their logic chip they are born with at times to realize what is going to happen if it is rape or cases of incest, it isn't fair to keep it again for the same reasons. Children need a loving home, not to be in a system that fails children and causes more problems than helps.

So think about it like this, is it important to give up a baby for adoption in a system that fails and let's children fall through the cracks. If the anti-abortion people want to fix a problem, why don't they adopt more? If they want to prove the system to work, why don't they contribute, than rather say NO!

Also guys, this does pertain to you, please think about your girlfriend/fiance/wife, when you think about having kids. They carry the baby for nine months, they go through the risks and also remember, even with a good hospital, there are risks, things do happen. You don't always have a say, but listen to what the woman says, its their body and even though they want to include you on decisions, don't force a personal belief too far onto her. She has to think what's best for her own body.